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Most Important of All

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I wanted to know
what The Most Important thing was,
which of all God’s words
was the greatest?
What it was most crucial to follow.

Jesus summed it all up in two phrases for me,
Love God
with everything you have got
and love your neighbour
as yourself.

So ‘all’ I have got to do
is love God,
my neighbour
and myself.

It sounds so easy put like that,
I could not disagree.

But actually,
when you think about it,
that is the whole world,
it encapsulates everyone.

Love of God is at the root,
in that is the love for the rest.
If my focus is on loving God,
love for everyone else
should flow through that.

If I can love myself,
in the knowledge
of the depths of God’s love for me,
I should be able to dwell in that love,
soak in it,
so that love overflows in me
onto all those around me.

All bound together
in a circle of love,
mutual support
and fellowship.

may I learn to truly love you,
that you are
the most important thing
in my life,
and I may give you
all that I am.

I come
to let you love me.
To stay here,
as your arms stretch out
and hold me tight
– comforting,
letting me know
that I am known
and loved.

May I allow your love to sink deep into me.
And from there,
may I be at the point
of being able to love others,
from the security of knowing what I mean to you.

The Greatest Commandment

When the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together, and one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. ‘Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?’ He said to him, ‘ “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself.” On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.’

The Question about David’s Son

Now while the Pharisees were gathered together, Jesus asked them this question: ‘What do you think of the Messiah? Whose son is he?’ They said to him, ‘The son of David.’ He said to them, ‘How is it then that David by the Spirit calls him Lord, saying,
“The Lord said to my Lord,
‘Sit at my right hand,
   until I put your enemies under your feet’ ”?
If David thus calls him Lord, how can he be his son?’ No one was able to give him an answer, nor from that day did anyone dare to ask him any more questions.

Matthew 22: 34-46

Who Loves You – Day 17

True love loves you for who you are.

Any love that loves you for what you may become, or the things you have around you, is not really love.  God is not in the business of only loving us if we achieve x, fulfil y, or have z.  God loves not those periphery things – but the very heart of us, the depths of who we really are when all is stripped away from us – good and bad.

Henri Nouwen reminds us of desperately running around seeking love and acceptance, asking,

Do you love me?

That is looking for the answer to the wrong question in the wrong place.

The picture that came to me yesterday was of allowing each of the holes of hurt and ‘unlove’ in to be plastered over with a new experience of love.  God’s love, God’s acceptance, God peace.  God saying, let’s get rid of that, allow my love and the love of those who do love you unconditionally to fill the hole, the crack, up.  That may mean nothing to you, make no sense at all – but it does to me!

And so I come again, to the need to allow God to love in a way that it doesn’t matter what others think or say.  I am secure in God’s love and that alone is what matters to me.  I need not hear the other voices.

Running around seeking love is exhausting – and ultimately frustrating and even more hurtful, because no one will meet that need.  Even the very best of human beings have their conditions.  No one wants to live their life that way, and no one should.

And so we come to God, because we truly are his beloved.  He has no conditions on his love.

I found this video very powerful in terms of God’s love and where it is

We can try, and fail, to find love in others, to make them accept us.  We only truly find what we are looking for in the God who sees to the heart of us.  It is to him we should look, and from him we will receive.  Our true selves are to be found in him, and not in any mirror image of what ‘the world’ is looking for.

If you are asking the question,

To whom do I belong?

the answer is him.  Look no further.


you are what I need.

Save me for looking for the wrong thing,

from the wrong people.

Help me not be listening so hard for the affirmation of others.

that I miss the word of your love,

deep within me.

Save me from striving to do the wrong thing,

to get what I think I need.

May I come before you,

allow you to fill the holes and cracks

with the healing balm of your love

and to truly know

the depth of your love

for me

(By the way, the book today’s reading is taken from, The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming is very well worth a read)

This year for Advent, some friends and I are using Advent and Christmas Wisdom from Henri J. M. Nouwen.   You’re welcome to join us on this journey.  Feel free to comment here, or on Twitter using #adventbookclub

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