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Living in Love

You want me to be yours,
your special one,
one with your special people.
you invite me to be yours
and shower me with your gifts.

Living with you
means living your way,
living your love,
in love,
with you
and with those
who my life rubs up against.

forgive me when I get angry,
when I so quickly flare up
instead of taking the time to listen,
to hear,
to view from a different angle
and understand.

Anger blinds me,
it stops me seeing the good,
the profound,
the holy.
Save me from arrogance
and bring me
to humility.

Help me to listen to you,
because listening
demands a response,
an action,
a purpose
and a call.
My tongue can take me
so far from that.

help me to speak,
and do
only what shows love for you,
lived out in love for others,
through your love for me.

As I live in your love for me,
may that love
control and direct
all I do or say,
and stop me
when I am tempted
to step outside
of loves ways.

Wonderful Grace

James 1:17-27 (CEV)

17 Every good and perfect gift comes down from the Father who created all the lights in the heavens. He is always the same and never makes dark shadows by changing. 18 He wanted us to be his own special people, and so he sent the true message to give us new birth.

Hearing and Obeying

19 My dear friends, you should be quick to listen and slow to speak or to get angry. 20 If you are angry, you cannot do any of the good things that God wants done. 21 You must stop doing anything immoral or evil. Instead be humble and accept the message that is planted in you to save you.

22 Obey God’s message! Don’t fool yourselves by just listening to it. 23 If you hear the message and don’t obey it, you are like people who stare at themselves in a mirror 24 and forget what they look like as soon as they leave. 25 But you must never stop looking at the perfect law that sets you free. God will bless you in everything you do, if you listen and obey, and don’t just hear and forget.

26 If you think you are being religious, but can’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and everything you do is useless. 27 Religion that pleases God the Father must be pure and spotless. You must help needy orphans and widows and not let this world make you evil.

Prayer in Temptation vi


21 You know that our ancestors were told, “Do not murder” and “A murderer must be brought to trial.” 22 But I promise you that if you are angry with someone, you will have to stand trial. If you call someone a fool, you will be taken to court. And if you say that someone is worthless, you will be in danger of the fires of hell.

23 So if you are about to place your gift on the altar and remember that someone is angry with you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. Make peace with that person, then come back and offer your gift to God.

25 Before you are dragged into court, make friends with the person who has accused you of doing wrong. If you don’t, you will be handed over to the judge and then to the officer who will put you in jail. 26 I promise you that you will not get out until you have paid the last cent you owe.

you know how angry I can get.
Sometimes at important things,
but often at things that don’t really matter.

But they put me out of sync
with myself,
with those I get cross at
and with you.

That is not how you want me to live,
but I get myself dragged into it,
I wind myself up
and often try to take others with me.

But now I pause,
for I am before you.
Who am I angry with?
Who have I made angry
by the things I do
so thoughtlessly?

I stay before you,
feel your searching,
your probing my thoughts,
my heart.
In honesty I confess.

Yet that is not enough,
I need to do something,
to put things right,
to make right
relationships that have gone wrong,
to confess my errors
and forgive others theirs.

may I take this time of Lent,
seize the opportunity
to bring peace,
to my life
and to the lives of those
I frustrate,
and have wronged.

Give me your strength Lord,
the strength to stand before you,
strength to live in you
and your ways.

Make Me a Channel of Peace – not anger or disharmony

Shouting at God

Life can have its dark times.

There is a school of thought that thinks God needs to be treated politely, that we should only say nice things to him.

But how is that honest?  And what kind of relationship would that be?  A real relationship needs honesty and a willingness to say what is really in your mind, not to pussyfoot around issues.

We saw last week how Job came to be tested, and that he had done nothing wrong, nothing to deserve the things that were happening to him.  We also heard Job being very philosophical and acknowledging that if one accepted the good, then one also accepted the bad. But now, twenty-three chapters on, he is getting a bit fed up, and lets rip:

Job 23:1-9, 16-17

Job’s Reply to Eliphaz

Today I Complain Bitterly

23 Job said:

Today I complain bitterly,
because God has been cruel
and made me suffer.
If I knew where to find God,
I would go there
    and argue my case.
Then I would discover
what he wanted to say.
Would he overwhelm me
with his greatness?
No! He would listen
    because I am innocent,
and he would say,
“I now set you free!”

I cannot find God anywhere—
in front or back of me,
    to my left or my right.
God is always at work,
though I never see him.

16     makes me tremble with fear.
17 God has covered me
with darkness,
but I refuse to be silent.

There is nothing wrong in shouting at God.  The Psalmists do it all the time.


That cry can be part of facing up to the situation.  In the Model of Grief, anger and bargaining come before acceptance, and so are very much a part of it.

Do we think God is offended by our shouting?  I don’t think so.  God is happy to accept and hear our emotions.  He’s big enough to take it.  God invites us to cry out to him from the depths of our beings, to be honest with him, to say what we feel – only then can he respond to that.  If we are happy with how things are, then fine, but if we are struggling with how our life and circumstances are then we should tell him – and hear what he has to say.


I come to you,

with the honesty of how I’m feeling.

I cannot hide from you,

you know how things are,

and you invite me to come as I am;

so I come,

shouting or singing,

crying or laughing

– for you accept me,

hear me,

and hold me tight

in your care