Think Before You Speak

•August 28, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Have you ever had one of those experiences when you’ve heard yourself say something and thought, ‘Why did I say that’?

Something stupid, hurtful, nasty or just best left unsaid?

Sometimes we do well to think before we speak.  But is there more to it than that?

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James 1:17-27

17 Every good and perfect gift comes down from the Father who created all the lights in the heavens. He is always the same and never makes dark shadows by changing. 18 He wanted us to be his own special people, and so he sent the true message to give us new birth.

Hearing and Obeying

19 My dear friends, you should be quick to listen and slow to speak or to get angry. 20 If you are angry, you cannot do any of the good things that God wants done. 21 You must stop doing anything immoral or evil. Instead be humble and accept the message that is planted in you to save you.

22 Obey God’s message! Don’t fool yourselves by just listening to it. 23 If you hear the message and don’t obey it, you are like people who stare at themselves in a mirror 24 and forget what they look like as soon as they leave. 25 But you must never stop looking at the perfect law that sets you free. God will bless you in everything you do, if you listen and obey, and don’t just hear and forget.

26 If you think you are being religious, but can’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and everything you do is useless. 27 Religion that pleases God the Father must be pure and spotless. You must help needy orphans and widows and not let this world make you evil.

What fabulous advice for life is,

My dear friends, you should be quick to listen and slow to speak or to get angry (v19)

How much better would so many things be if we could all apply that principle.  For, as James points out, if we are using all our energy on being angry, we can’t be doing the good things God wants us to do.

If we want to take seriously living in God’s ways, we can’t just listen to what he says, we have to act on it as well – for listening is only any good if it leads us to action.

Why do we get angry, or say hurtful things? To truly try to bring change? – Or to make us feel better?  Or make someone else look bad?

Would we say what we are saying to someone’s face?  Would it help if we did?  Are our words and actions building God’s ways – or destroying them?

Are we as quick to listen to someone as we are to get cross?  To hear what they are actually saying, what is really happening for them?

So before we speak, we should listen to God, hear what he is saying, and try to convey that – not our opinion.

Lord,

forgive me the times I am quick to speak and slow to listen,

quick to make a snap judgement without listening to you,

quick to anger and slow to think on you.

Lord,

I pray that my words

will be your words.

We may be the only Christian someone knows.  What would they think about our behaviour, attitude and what we say?

Let’s Go

•August 27, 2012 • Leave a Comment

The love of your life comes to call.  Declares their love, and invites you to come with them.  Do you go?

Song of Solomon 2:8-13

Winter Is Past

She Speaks:

I hear the voice
of the one I love,
as he comes leaping
over mountains and hills
    like a deer or a gazelle.
Now he stands outside our wall,
looking through the window
10     and speaking to me.

He Speaks:

My darling, I love you!
Let’s go away together.
11 Winter is past,
the rain has stopped;
12 flowers cover the earth,
it’s time to sing.
The cooing of doves
is heard in our land.
13 Fig trees are bearing fruit,
while blossoms on grapevines
fill the air with perfume.
My darling, I love you!
Let’s go away together.

The Song of Solomon is a love poem, between a man and a woman.  Seen as just that, it is beautiful and moving.  But of course it is in the Bible, so we have to assume it has some greater depth (is an allegory), and the love story of the man and woman is to lead us into greater understanding about God – and his relationship with his people.

God comes to us and speaks to us, calling to us.  Inviting us to come to him.  He loves us and longs for us to join him.

Will you go with God, as he calls you today?

Lord,

I hear your voice,

I feel your love,

calling to me,

longing for me to go with you.

Today,

I answer your call

– you are all I want,

all I need

– I come with you

Invisible Disability

•August 27, 2012 • 3 Comments

I’ve been having a lovely time at the Greenbelt Festival – well within my limits anyway!  I have spent a limited amount of time on site (yes we are staying in a hotel – for all the same reasons :-)), and when there I have found a quiet corner to sit and listen, or to try to chat with people.

What is has reminded me of, is all the problems of having an invisible disability, ie one where when people see you they think, and often say,

Well you look well!

Because yes I probably do look ok – if you don’t notice me coughing; or that I don’t move far, and when I do it’s very slowly; and that I don’t hang around for long because I can’t concentrate and I certainly can’t talk for very long; and when I look bored, I’m not, I’m just struggling to follow or stay awake.  But just because someone looks ok, doesn’t mean they aren’t carrying illness or disability within them and struggling.  And you don’t always want to have to spend your life having to explain this to people, or it becomes what defines you.

But when I try to explain I can’t climb stairs, or park my car a long way away and walk – I’m not being lazy, or awkward. And just because you see me on a day when I’ve got my “presenting front” on doesn’t mean I’m coping, just that I’ve got practiced at looking like I am – and you don’t see the price I pay when I get back home…

Just because you can’t see a disability it doesn’t mean it’s not there. Don’t assume that what you see in someone is the reality of their lives – please. v