Not being a doormat – Love iii

•February 17, 2011 • Leave a Comment

So we’ve dealt with love on a personal way, we’ve looked at how love effects justice, but what about those who we find difficult, or those who hurt us in some way?  What are we to do about them?

The traditional understanding was, “An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth”.  In other words whatever someone does to you, you should, and can, do back to them.

But, Jesus says, but…

…that is not the way of God, it is not the way of love.  Jesus comes to turn things on their head, to shake up our understanding of right and wrong, to change our perceptions of what things are really about.

So, he says:

don’t try to get even with someone who has done something to you;

if someone slaps you, let them slap you again;

if someone takes your shirt, see if they want your coat too;

if you’re forced to carry a pack one mile, be ready to take it two;

if someone wants to borrow something, lend it.

 

We might see all these things as being a bit of a doormat – not so, says Jesus, it’s being a person who loves and goes on loving.

If someone is doing these things, what is going on in their lives to make them like that?  Do they need the same treatment back – or do they need to see the way of love?  What would benefit them more, a slap – or being shown a different way to go about things.

Anyone can love those who love them, and it is very easy to hate those who we would count as our enemies.  But that is not what Jesus is asking of his people.  He’s looking for a different way of life.  God treats everyone the same.  Good or bad, the sun shines on them and the rain rains on them. All are welcome to his love.

And we are called to act like God – our Father, who loves us – and loves them.

Very easy to write – but so much more difficult to do…

 

Lord

you love us,

and you call us to love others.

You don’t want us to respond

with knee-jerk reactions –

at least not our own.

You need us to love

that others may experience love

– your love.

You know how hard that is for me to do.

So please Lord,

give me your reactions,

your love.

Left overs – Love ii

•February 16, 2011 • 1 Comment

I can imagine that if I told my menfolk when they were mowing the lawn that they didn’t have to go right up to the edges, or go back over the bits they had missed they would be thrilled.

Such is the command for harvesting corn fields and when gathering in the grapes from the vineyard.  Don’t go right to the edges, don’t go back over bits that have been missed, don’t pick up what you drop – leave it there.

Leave it for those who have no crops of their own – the poor and refugees.  That those who have nothing, may have something.  It is the responsibility of those who have to feed those who have not.

What a fine principal – but it doesn’t perhaps mean much to us in our 21st Century lifestyle.  Not many of us have fields or vineyards.  But many do have veg plots and allotments.  How generous are we with our gluts?

And what about the rest of life?

Leviticus goes on:

Don’t steal or cheat or lie;

Don’t take advantage of anyone;

Don’t rob people;

or hold back wages that have been earned;

don’t cause those who are disabled to stumble;

be honest and just in legal cases;

don’t show favouritism;

don’t bear a grudge

That is how to love your neighbour.

Having learnt to love ourselves, that love is not for keeping to ourselves, not for making us feel warm and fuzzy.  It is for us, but it is also then to make us pass that love on, and to pass it on in a very practical way.

What can we be doing to make the world a more fair and just place?  To pass on the love from God that we know?

Lord, as we pray for justice

move us

and equip us

to act.

May justice not just be a good idea,

something to aspire to,

something for “them” to get on with;

but a way of life

in our lives and hearts

every day.

Love i

•February 15, 2011 • 2 Comments

 

This is a card from http://www.treatsomoenonespecial.com, standing up for those still trapped in slavery

Well yesterday was Valentines Day.  An opportunity, if it is required, to tell someone that you love them – though I am reliably informed that it is not necessary to buy a card, flowers, something cuddly, or anything else to do that!

 

But love is a much wider concept than the romantic love between two people.  It is a principle for life, that this weeks three lectionary readings spell out for us.

 

The laws of Leviticus tells us quite clearly,

Love others as you love yourself

I suppose our natural English reticence and self-deprecation makes us immediately shun this thought.  We’re not good at loving ourself, we like to leave that to others, which is presumably why we get so caught up in needing to be loved.

An perhaps that’s why we’re not always so good at loving others – because we don’t love ourselves enough.

Loving ourselves is not to do with thinking we’re better than everyone else, or standing in front of the mirror for hours admiring what we see; rather it is recognising within ourselves that we are precious, our life is valuable, we have a part to play – and that we are known and loved by God.

As Paul reminds us,

You are God’s holy temple, and his Spirit lives in you

And if that doesn’t make us special and loved – what does?

And that it the basis from which we can love others.  Because we realize first how much God loves us.  We bask in that love, let it soak right through us – and then from us to those we meet.

Thank you Lord for the depth of your love for us.

Thank you that you live in us

May we let this sink in –

You

God

love me.

I am precious to you.

 

And then may I love others, as much as you love me